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In episode 31, hosts Brooke & Faren talk about understanding and combating shame by developing what Brene Brown calls “shame resilience”. Using her ideas with Witty & Gritty’s practical application, growth is guaranteed to happen!
Brene Brown writes about different ways to combat shame. We won’t give all the good stuff away in the show notes, so be sure to tune into the episode to hear her tactics as well as our tips we’ve learned from experience!
Important Quick Definitions/Examples
- Guilt= “I did a bad thing.”
- Shame= “I am a bad person.”
- Embarrassment= toilet paper stuck on your shoe (common, fleeting feeling)
- Humiliation= your boss degrading you in front of your coworkers (undeserved, inappropriate)
- Leader= anyone in a position to help another realize their fullest potential (boss, mom, influencer, coworker, etc…)
The Power of Reflection
Combating the shame gremlins can start with simply listening to your inner voice. You may realize that dialogue inside your mind is more harsh than you realized. Keep your mental game in check and if the voice inside your head is hurtful or unproductive, tell it to leave!
Recognizing how the narrative inside your head speaks to you can be make or break in tough situations. Choose to set yourself up for success by taming the shame spirals that try to run your life. Not today, Satan!
Be the Roadmap
Leverage your experiences for good! We know God works all things together for good, so whatever it is you’ve gone through, LEVERAGE THAT! You are the trailblazer, and you can step up and show those behind you the roadmap to overcoming a circumstance.
Whatever your leadership role is, if you want your team (family, coworkers, etc…) to produce and make gains, you must lead with grace. If you’re leading with a shame mindset, you’re setting yourself (and those you lead) up for failure.
Empathy is Key
A myth that is sometimes believed about empathy is that you have to have experienced the exact same thing as someone in order to empathize with them. FLASE! Example: if your friend calls you and tells you an embarrassing story, you can draw on a time where you have felt the same embarrassed feeling.
Think about how you would want someone to respond to you. Keep your religious and moral compass in mind when you are empathizing and communicating with those you love.
Wholehearted living is the key to combating shame.
