We continue the mini series on “The Path Between Us” by Suzanne Stabile. In episode 68, “Enneagram 5s 6s 7s and Their Relationships”, we discuss the head/thinking triad and how their relationships can prosper. We’ll give you practical, actionable tips and tactics to use to grow your connections.
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In this episode “Enneagram 5s, 6s, 7s and Their Relationships”, we break each number down in three parts:
- How each specific number can improve their relationships
- How others can help each specific number
- Getting specific number by number with each relationship
These episodes are packed full of information that will help you improve your relationships with each Enneagram type. Episodes 66, 67, & 68 chunk together each of the triads.
5s and Their Relationships
5s with Others: You love your privacy, so find ways to be a pat of the world around you without maxing out your energy. Adopt a “start before you’re ready” mentality, and remember that you can ask for help without it meaning you’re incompetent.
Others with 5s: Wait until they’re ready to talk about the deep stuff, and try not to pry even though it’s hard to resist the urge. 5s almost always need more time to think or come up with the words to express their desires and thoughts. think time.
Specifics: Now it’s time to get specific on how each number could & should interact with others. Tune into the episode to hear examples of how this looks.
- 1s & 5s: Neither want to feel incompetent nor inadequate. 1s be careful with constructive criticism and give time for processing.
- 2s & 5s: Respect privacy with the need to help each other. Set boundaries and respect it if a 5 wants to solve a problem on their own.
- 3S & 5s: 5s can teach this number to pull back and not have to expend all the energy (the 5 will start opting out).
- 4S & 5s: These are very different personalities with feeling and not feeling, develop your wings to help further connection.
- 5s & 5s: Both enjoy thinking and processing, but make sure someone in the relationship takes action and that both are taking feelings into account.
- 6s & 5s: 5s can help 6s rationalize fears, 6s can help 5s get into action mode.
- 7s, 8s & 5s: 5s are connected to 7s & 8s. Tapping into the 8ness, they can become action takers. 7s can help the 5s feel more lighthearted and positive.
- 9s & 5s: They have a lot in common. 9s can trust the research behind the rationale of a 5 and 5s can appreciate the rest 9s need.
6s and Their Relationships
6s with Others: Make sure you listen to your body. You may be running on fumes and may not know it until you sit down…and then possibly fall asleep. God will equip you, so don’t stress about every possible “what if” scenario possible. Refer to 2 Corinthians 10:5 ad Philippians 4:8.
Others with 6s: The phrase “don’t worry about it”, needs to be double checked in the presence of a 6. There are ways to talk down a 6 when they are worst-case scenario planning. Check on them and address anxieties instead of dismissing them.
Specifics: Now it’s time to get specific on how each number could & should interact with others. Tune into the episode to hear examples of how this looks.
- 1s & 6s: 1s abnormally high expectations increase the anxieties of the 6s.
- 2s & 6s: You can trust each other, 6s don’t need to read into what the 2’s help is really doing. Work on developing trust in the relationship.
- 3s & 6s: Check your motivations on why you’re in achieve/perform mode. Let the 3s be your hype-man and encourager.
- 4s & 6s: 4s feel comfortable in the worst-case scenario feeling while 6s feel stressed. Try to balance each other out.
- 5s & 6s: 5s don’t need all the answers and 6s need to have the answers. Help peach other plan and take action.
- 6s & 6s: Balance is the name of the game. Do your best to stay positive in stressful situations with another 6.
- 7s & 6s: 7s can leverage their skill is optimism to help the 6s. 6s can help keep the 7 grounded.
- 8s & 6s: 8s do and then think and 6s think and then do. Make sure you discuss plans before taking action; be considerate.
- 9s & 6s: Goal setting with deadlines will be the most help. Keep each other motivated and in action.
7s and Their Relationships
7s with Others: You can’t outrun your negative feelings. Be sure to turn and face all your feelings and experience the whole range of emotions. It’s okay to unpack your feelings and work through them.
Others with 7s: When criticism is necessary, be brief and gentle. Try a compliment sandwich. 7s do not like negative feelings, so if you need to discuss the uncomfortable feelings, preface the conversation with what you need from them.
Specifics: Now it’s time to get specific on how each number could & should interact with others. Tune into the episode to hear examples of how this looks.
- 1s & 7s: 1s can teach 7s boundaries while 7s can teach 1s spontaneity
- 2s & 7s: Find the balance on how to communicate the non-happy feelings. Vocalize how much affection is needed, be specific.
- 3s & 7s: Both are high energy who don’t enjoy limitations, so learn to work hard, play hard.
- 4s & 7s: 4s see the glass half empty and 7s see it as half full. Find the balance between the high and low feelings.
- 5s & 7s: Make sure you bring out the best in each other by switching up the mundane parts of life in a healthy way.
- 6s & 7s: Balance the worst-case scenario with the best-case scenario
- 7s & 7s: Vision boards and goal setting will be helpful to work towards common goals.
- 8s & 7s: 8s do and then think when 7s think and then do. Make sure communication plays role, so the 7 doesn’t feel forced into something they’re not sure of.
- 9s & 7s: Limiting choices will help the overwhelm of the 9s and give limitations to the 7s to make the choice without the distraction of too many options.
That’s a Wrap!
Thanks for checking out the show notes to episode 68 “Enneagram 5s, 6s, 7s and Their Relationships”. Join for the next few weeks to take a deeper dive into the Enneagram and how to help improve your relationships. You don’t want to miss it!
