In episode 114, “Don’t Shy Away From Change”, we discuss practical tips on how to embrace change while putting realistic expectations on each circumstance. Training yourself and others to get comfortable with change will help you become more mentally tough. We continue our book study mini series over Amy Morin’s 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do. Learn how to take back your power, embrace change, face your fears, and train your brain for happiness and success.
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The Negative Impact of Avoiding Change
You may have heard it many different ways, but the main focus of this episode is “nothing changes if nothing changes.” That can be a hard pill to swallow, especially if you are lacking motivation to change, or have a fear of change. If you’re wanting to become more mentally strong, embracing change is the way to go. So, what’s holding you back? Dig deep and take time to think about that.
You may have an underlying fear in your head that you’ve engrained in your brain subconsciously. It’s common for those who dislike change to have a desire to avoid uncomfortable feelings like grief, fear, sadness, etc… This is an ugly truth that needs addressing if you are truly wanting to grow yourself. You can do it! We’re here to help. Listen to episode 114 to hear how to do this (scroll up and hit play).
Here are a few negative consequences to staying stuck instead of choosing to embrave change. Keep scrolling for how to combat these!
- others will outgrow you
- develop a “why try” mentality
- have negative self talk
- worst-case scenario thinking
- believe half-truths
- make excuses instead of growth
Refusing to change is an active choice. Embracing change is an active choice. You have the power to choose if you’ll grow or stay stuck. Keep reading below to hear how you can learn to embrace change and get more mentally tough.
How to Embrace Change
Consistently choosing to adapt and accept change is the key point in episode 114. We discuss practical, actionable ways you can take this growth aspect into your everyday life. Here are a few ways you can do this:
- consistently journal
- identify pros/cons to change
- spend time reflecting
- take thoughts captive
- best case scenario thinking
If you’re looking for very specific steps on exactly how to make these changes, we break that down in our Atomic Habits Mini Series (episodes 103-111). Make sure you head that way for the proven step by step process.
Other Helpful Tips
We love the Bible verses Philippians 4:6-8. It helps you know what to do and think about if your thoughts are getting in the way of making positive changes. Read the verse below and take a moment to reflect on what this can mean for you when it comes to the growth point of change.
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
Philippians 4:6-8
Think about the ways you want to grow. Friendly reminder that growth means changing for the better. Sometimes it takes trial and error on what works for you in this life phase. Make sure you’re not wasting mental energy on wishing you would change; just start making your moves. Here are more tips to get you started:
- create S.M.A.R.T. goals
- focus on one small change at a time
- set yourself up with good cues
- don’t let emotions dictate your actions
- give yourself pep talks as needed
- celebrate even the small wins
We hope you enjoyed “Don’t Shy Away From Change”, and that you have practical, actionable steps you can take. Be sure to check out this entire 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do mini series (13 Things mini series) about a simple & proven way to become more mentally tough. You can do this! We’re here to help. Click the affiliate image below to get your copy of Amy Morin’s book.
Links From the Show
- Witty & Gritty Patreon
- Book: 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do (affiliate)
- Grit Mini Series (episodes 19-25)
- Daring Greatly Mini Series (episodes 28-38)
- Everything is Figureoutable Mini Series (episodes 40-51)
- Switch On Your Brain Mini Series (episodes 55-62)
- Get Out Of Your Head Mini Series (episodes 84-91)
- Dream Big Mini Series (episodes 92-100)
- Atomic Habits Mini Series (episodes 103-111)
- Move Mountains Literacy (dyslexia program) IG
- What is Dyslexia? (episode 39)
- Stephanie Frentress, Grief (episode 18)
- Episode 91 Casey & Anxiety
- How to Speak Life into Your Kids
- Episode 89: Jess the Health Coach
