In episode 153, “Why Core Connection Matters”, we discuss the importance of finding common ground in order to build a foundation of growth. Connecting with others on a deeper level will increase value in relationships and help you move towards your goals. We begin our book study mini series over Dale Carnegie’s book, “How to Win Friends and Influence People in the Digital Age” in episode 151. Learn how to develop the soft skills needed to have a positive impact, lead others well, and help point others to Christ.
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Connection Matters
If you’re here, you may be wondering why core connection matters. Did you know, that engrained in our souls is a longing for connection? And not just, “You like chocolate ice cream? Me too!”. We’re talking deep down in the roots of who you are, you need to feel seen and understood by a group of others. We’re talking quality over quantity here.
If you’re in a position to help grow others or lead people in some way (hint: that’s you to some capacity), you know that the foundation of lasting relationships is the connection of something that ties back to who you are and what you value. Speaking plainly, if you’re a Christian, your deepest relationships need to be with other Christians.
In this podcast episode, we discuss ways to have these growing conversations along with tips on how to lean on the Holy Spirit for guidance (being intuitive with the hints God is giving you). We tell you where to step in and where to dodge. This is a skill that takes some time to develop, but it is worth every bit of the effort you put in. Keep it simple. Be sure to scroll back up and press play to get all the details!
Core Desires
When talking about why core connection matters, we must say that it goes hand in hand with core desires. Think of it this way, if you’re trying to figure out if this person will be a good influence on you and others (remember that it’s a two-way street), this about how they act. Action springs from core desires, which comes from the thoughts they have. More more science and description on this, you’ll want to check out our Switch On Your Brain mini series.
Pro tip: You cannot serve two masters. You cannot be in quality relationship building and be in it for the wealth, fame, or other factor. Bottom line, be interested in meeting people’s needs not the other thing that you may be gettin gin return (money, prestige, etc). Jesus Christ is the greatest example of being others centered, and putting their needs before His. Every time you interact with others, you have the chance to show the love of Christ that’s within you. Always find a way to make the other person feel seen and understood.
Common Goals
We’ve discussed why core connection matters and how desires drive us, so now that is established between you and the other party, it’s time to find some common goals. This final step comes in handy if your trying to do anything productive. This can look many ways depending on the pocket of life:
- Agreed upon parenting strategies
- Healthy boundaries set between your kids and their friends
- Collaborating on projects at work
The same principles apply. Now that we’ve established our connection and desires, it’s time to find a way to combine skills to achieve goals. The common ground is the basis and moral code in which you operate. Together, discuss and decide the values and approaches that are acceptable. There are many more details and examples in the podcast episode, so be sure to scroll up and press play!
We hope you enjoyed episode 153, “Why Core Connection Matters” and that you have practical, actionable steps you can take. Be sure to check out this entire How to Win Friends mini series about how to have a positive impact, lead others well, and help point others to Christ. You can do this! We’re here to help. Click the affiliate image below to get your copy of Dale Carnegies’ book.
