In episode 113, “Don’t Give Away Your Power”, we discuss practical tips on how to set healthy boundaries, break free from people pleasing, and gain back mental real estate. Training yourself and others let go of grudges and practice forgiveness will help you have a more positive life. We continue our book study mini series over Amy Morin’s 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do. Learn how to take back your power, embrace change, face your fears, and train your brain for happiness and success.
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The Problem with Giving Away Your Power
Giving away your power can look differently depending on your personality. This could look like people pleasing, always saying yes, losing your temper easily, or letting resentment occupy your mind. We all have our particular vices when it comes to giving away our power, but once we become aware of what that is doing to us, we can take our power back and channel our energy into becoming more mentally tough.
When we spend time complaining, give up our healthy boundaries, and waste time holding onto grudges, we cannot live our life to the fullest. It can cause us to become too dependent on others’ opinions, have a hard time regulating our own feelings, self worth can get skewed, and we can lose sight of our priorities. Make sure you don’t give away your power in these aspects of life.
If your struggle is with people pleasing, remember that when you say yes to something, you are saying no to another thing (which could be your main priority you’re neglecting). Others may struggle with holding onto grudges or being resentful. When we fall into this trap, we are giving up our mental real estate when we can be thinking about more productive, pleasant things. Think about what your personal struggle is, and tune into episode 113 to hear how to gain back your power in these areas.
not making a choice is still making a choice, you can temporarily feel uncomfortable and end the problem, or permanently feel this way
The Power of Forgiveness
Here’s the good news! The way to improve this aspect of life is all in your head. You get to choose what to do from here. If you want to let go of things you should’t be holding onto, this is for you! In episode 113, we give practical, actionable steps to practicing forgiveness. It can be challenging at first, especially if you’re not used to this concept, but it is well worth the work. Here are a few tips from the show if you don’t want to give away your power:
- Reframe your thoughts to positive ones
- Knowing that your feelings are a choice
- Reframe your speech (get to vs have to)
- Exercise forgiveness
- Take deep breaths
- Verbalize your needs
- Set healthy boundaries and expectations
The list goes on with multiple examples, so scroll up to listen to the episode so you can find your growth points. Remember nothing changes if nothing changes. Not making the choice to improve is still a choice. We know this is a hard truth, so tune into episode 113 to hear all the tips.
When it comes to relationships (friendships, coworkers, partners, children, etc…), we dive into how you can help those who struggle in this area. If you find yourself in conflict (hello, anyone who has had a lasting relationship), we’ve got have a FREEBIE for you! It’ll help you with conflict resolution and how to consume feedback and criticism.
Other Helpful Tips on Forgiveness
When we can exercise forgiveness, we can experience the freedom of a lighter spirit, and healthier mental state. We become better at receiving feedback, we can connect better with ourselves and others, and we reduce stress. We cover more of the benefits of forgiveness in the episode, so be sure to go check it out.
Friendly reminder that you can’t make everyone happy…you’re not pizza. It’s helpful if you do a time audit of your days or weeks and own up to where all your time is going. Make sure your time is aligned with your priorities. Keep healthy boundaries and don’t allow feedback to dictate everything you do in life. We give several tips on how to do this in the episode.
We hope you enjoyed “Don’t Give Away Your Power”, and that you have practical, actionable steps you can take. Be sure to check out this entire 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do mini series (13 Things mini series) about a simple & proven way to become more mentally tough. You can do this! We’re here to help. Click the affiliate image below to get your copy of Amy Morin’s book.
Links From the Show
- Witty & Gritty Patreon
- Book: 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do (affiliate)
- Grit Mini Series (episodes 19-25)
- Everything is Figureoutable Mini Series (episodes 40-51)
- Switch On Your Brain Mini Series (episodes 55-62)
- Atomic Habits Mini Series (episodes 103-111)
- Power of Positive Thinking (book affiliate link)
- Brave Haven Counseling
- Sparrow House Counseling
- Rockwall Counseling and Wellness
- Love & Respect (book affiliate link)
