In episode 144, “How to Be A Good Gift Giver”, we talk about ways to become a great gift giver, and how to show your love through gifts. We dive into how to express desire for specific gifts, and how giving and receiving gifts can demonstrate love. We begin our book study mini series over Gary Chapman’s, The 5 Love Languages in episode 141. Learn how to strengthen all of your relationships (not just with your significant other) with the secret to love that lasts.
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Love Language: Receiving Gifts
If you know someone who enjoys receiving gifts, it doesn’t mean that they are caught up in the material aspects of life. In fact, these gifts can be little to no cost to the giver. We wanted to start by making this statement, so you know up front that lack of money doesn’t have to stop you from loving someone through gifts.
Having the love language of receiving gifts means that you enjoy having tangible symbols that represent love or that you were thought of by someone else. If you hold onto notes or cards or keep trinkets throughout the years, etc…this may be an indicator that one of your dominant love languages is receiving gifts.
Not well practiced at giving gifts? No worries! Learning on how to give gifts is one of the easier love languages to learn. We’ve even linked our gift guides below to help give you some ideas. Just think about visual reminders that show that person you care about and appreciate them.
Gift Giving Hacks
If you want to learn how to be a good gift giver, remember that it doesn’t have to cost money. If you’re on a tight budget, you can simply pick a flower, find a neat rock that matches their favorite shirt, or even save movie ticket stubs for the memories. All of these are visual reminders that you were thinking of that person, and that’s where the magic of gift giving is.
For the people who can budget in for this, have them create an ongoing list on Amazon or a shared notes on your phones. When the mood to strike hits, look back on the list and you already have something in mind for that person. Know the person’s interests and take the time to pay attention to it. Doing this demonstrates that you were thinking about them and appreciate them.
Need more help? Look around at what they have, collect, or enjoy discussing/doing. You make a list of things that excite them or that they mention as they go throughout their day. You can even recruit the help of a friend or family member if you get stuck. Pro Tip: You don’t have to wait for a special occasion to give the gift. If you want to show someone you care about them on a regular basis, try to create habits to do this frequently. Our Atomic Habits Mini Series that will help you learn how to create habits you actually want to keep.
Communication is Key
Learning how to be a good gift giver doesn’t always mean the person is receiving a tangible item. This is where love language dialects come into play. Sometimes, the gift of self is what the person you care about need the most, especially depending on the circumstance. We go into more details on this in episode 144, so be sure to scroll up and press play.
Make sure you communicate on all of this to make sure you’re on the same page, and be prepared to take some time to be intentional on what that looks like. If you’re in the newborn baby phase, going through job loss, or just needing to tighten the budget, come up with realistic expectations. We talk about how to create category levels of gifts, how to get creative with delivery, and how to keep it simple. We’ve curated a few gift guides to get the ball rolling:
- Enneagram Christmas Gift Guide
- Enneagram Summer Gift Guide
- Teacher Gift Guide
- Christmas Character Gift Guide (part 1)
- Christmas Character Gift Guide (part 2)
- 21 Kicks Journals
The simple gesture of being intentional goes a long way. Do they have a stressful workday coming up? Are they wanting to celebrate something small? Have something exciting to have a countdown to? Tune into what they’re saying and add a little good luck gift to brighten their day. The more you practice the art of giving gifts, the better you’ll get at it.
We hope you enjoyed episode 144, “How to Be A Good Gift Giver” and that you have practical, actionable steps you can take. Be sure to check out this entire 5 Love Languages mini series about how to strengthen all of your relationships (not just your significant other) with the keys to love that lasts. You can do this! We’re here to help. Click the affiliate image below to get your copy of Gary Chapman’s book.
Links From the Show
- The 5 Love Languages (book)
- The 5 Love Languages Mini Series
- 21 Kicks Journals
- Atomic Habits Mini Series
- Enneagram Christmas Gift Guide
- Enneagram Summer Gift Guide
- Teacher Gift Guide
- Christmas Character Gift Guide (part 1)
- Christmas Character Gift Guide (part 2)
- 21 Kicks Journals
5 Love Languages Resources
- The 5 Love Languages (book)
- The 5 Love Languages of Children (book)
- The 5 Love Languages: Singles Edition (book)
- The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers (book)
- The 5 Love Languages for Men (book)
- The 5 Love Languages of Military (book)
- The 5 Appreciation Languages of the Workplace (book)
- The 5 Love Languages, Small Group book study
- A Teen’s Guide to The 5 Love Languages
