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In episode 34, Brooke & Faren discuss chapter 6 of Brene Brown’s “Daring Greatly”. This chapter is called “Disruptive Engagement: Daring to Rehumanize Education and Work” and it does not disappoint.
This chapter is applicable for anyone in any leadership role. Brene Brown defines leadership as: when you’re in a position to help people reach their greatest potential. So whether it’s little league or CEO, your role matters.
Brene Brown gives us insight on ways to rehumanize situations. To get full details, be sure to grab your copy of the book and listen to our full episode.
Understand how scarcity effects the way you lead and work
What cripples creativity and innovation? Shame & fear management styles. This goes for your company and for your home. The fear of introducing an idea and being ridiculed for it, or being shamed for failing at something creates a barrier that cannot be overcome.
What’s worth doing, even if I fail?
If you want to cultivate an innovative, creative climate either at work or at home, then we must take a look at scarcity and how it ties in with how we live. To hear tips, examples, & anecdote, check out the full episode!
Visible shame is like termites. If you see them, there is a bigger issue lurking somewhere. We’ve got to recognize this, find the source, and engage by using vulnerability.
Engage with your vulnerability
Truth bomb: If your people are having to navigate shame, they are passing that on to others (coworkers/siblings/friends/spouses). Remember, you are training your people how to build and maintain relationships…do you want it to be shame based, or do you want it to be innovative, inspiring, and creative?
PRO TIP! If you see shame in the environment you’re in, address shame immediately and…without shame. YEP! This takes practice, rehearsing on your own, and very important: you can’t approach someone when you’re still angry.
If shame creates disengagement, then vulnerability creates engagement.
Recognize and combat shame
PRO TIP! Create a slogan or a catchy phrase that encompasses your culture. Think about what your workplace or family “mission statement” would be if someone were to ask to describe what you represent. What are those core beliefs and sacred values?
Combat shame by AVOIDING the following:
- the blame game
- coverup culture
- favoritism
- resentment
Combat shame by DOING the following:
- give feedback that’s honest, constructive, productive & engaged
- give positive affirmations and strengths
- use the 6:1 ratio of deposits:withdraws
Get comfortable being uncomfortable. Normalizing this helps reduce fear, anxiety, & shame.
How to have quality feedback conversations:
- sit at the same level/side of table
- use “we”, “us”, “our” instead of “you”, “your”
- tone-delivery matters
- open palms, palms up, nothing crossed, positive body language
- engaged feedback checklist from the book
Have the courage to be vulnerable. When you shut down vulnerability, you shut down opportunity. If you aren’t vulnerable, you’re missing out. Good leadership is scarce…it’s a tough job.
Listener’s Shout Out
Love their Grit!
Refreshing podcast! Faren and Brooke have invested a lot of time and energy with their true passion… helping others find their grit in life! Every episode is entertaining, informative, and encouraging. Highly encourage anyone to listen!
AEaton88
Show Note Links
- The Boo Boos That Changed The World (book affiliate link)
- Lead for God’s Sake (book affiliate link)
- Brooke’s Rules to Fair Fighting (blog post link)
- Daring Greatly info page
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