In episode 121, “Don’t Give Up After the First Failure”, we discuss practical tips on how to persevere through trials and failures. Training yourself and others to press on when you fail will help you become more mentally tough. We continue our book study mini series over Amy Morin’s 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do. Learn how to take back your power, embrace change, face your fears, and train your brain for happiness and success.
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The Negatives to Giving Up
As we mature, we realize that failure is inevitable. Each of us fail at one thing or another, and it’s important to normalize it. It’s what we do after the failure that defines who we are as people. If we all quit the first time we fail at something, we’ll never do anything well. As you may know by now, there are significant downfalls to quitting after there is a hiccup:
- Avoid new skills
- Fear of failure
- Negative Self fulfilling prophecy
- Limit yourself
- Learned helplessness
- Fixed mindset
No one wants to feel this way, but if we have a habit of giving up after the first fail, that can become who we think we are. Your failures don’t define you. Your worth is in Jesus. Lean on that truth, especially when the fail is a tough pill to swallow.
“Failure is part of the process of success. People who avoid failure also avoid success.”
Robert T. Kiyosaki
How to Press On Through Failure
Don’t give up after the first failure. Failure is a common humanity experience, so we need to learn to adapt, improve, and press on when it happens. We extensively discuss this in our Grit mini series, so tune into episodes 19-25 if you want to know step by step processes on how to do that. Deliberate practice is key and we know through research that grit is a better predictor of success than IQ.
Failure is a sign that i’m challenging myself, and i can choose to try again.
Amy Morin
Facing your fear of failure might not be as scary or overwhelming as you thought it would be. Learn to embrace it as a part of the growth process and choose to fail forward. Here are some other helpful truths we discuss in the episode:
- Don’t give up
- Practice deliberately
- Failure is a part of the process
- Address your fear of failure
Failure makes you stronger when you learn to leverage it. Learn to debunk myths about failure by combating them with the truth. Take some time to think about how long you’re taking to have a mindset shift once failure occurs. Are you dwelling for days, or do you practically analyze it and leverage the lessons in a timely manner? Failure challenges you, helps you find what you can work on, and can even reveal hidden strengths.
More Tips
It’s time we all start viewing failure as a learning opportunity. Know that on this side of heaven, you’ll have trail and failure. God is here to consistently provide for you along the way. If God has called you to pursue something, He will equip you along the way.
- Face ear of failure
- Tolerate discomfort
- Don’t think failure is worse than it is
Keep in mind that you are developing skill sets each time you fail. You can choose to leverage failures as lessons and be prepared for your next attempt. Being ina constant state of growth and leaning on God will help you remain prepared and on the right path.
For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work among you will complete it by the day of Christ Jesus.
Philippians 1:6
We hope you enjoyed “Don’t Give Up After the First Failure”, and that you have practical, actionable steps you can take. Be sure to check out this entire 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do mini series (13 Things mini series) about a simple & proven way to become more mentally tough. You can do this! We’re here to help. Click the affiliate image below to get your copy of Amy Morin’s book.
Links From the Show
- Witty & Gritty Patreon
- Book: 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do (affiliate)
- Wayside School Books (affiliate)
- Grit Mini Series (episodes 19-25)
